Seven Ways to Measure Your Life

Without the ability to measure, it would be nonsensical and absurd to value anything. Our life is God’s good gift to us. In His grace, we are saved by our Savior; in His blood we become righteous.

Measure your Life
Measuring items for depiction purpose only

Here I list out seven ways or elements for you and me to measure our life. So that, we may lead a balance life, or in the least, a better life in the eyes of the Lord. And in the hope of sustaining our earthly life in the face of happiness and adversities:

1. Measure your life by your JOY regardless of life’s circumstances.

By definition, joy is the feeling of great pleasure and happiness. It can be permanent unlike happiness which depends on circumstances.

Joy is beyond facial expression of smiling and laughing. It is because laughing and smiling can be superficial. We are created to enjoy humor. Too much humor can leave us more empty than before.

The joy of the Lord transient all forms of happiness. For the joy of the Lord is our strength. Measure your life by the joy if you have in Jesus Christ. A spirit-filled joy or spiritual joy is permanent. We are made complete in His joy. (John 15:11)

2. Measure your life by your HOPE in the Lord.

Hope is an expectation and desire for something to happen; in our favor or as it was promised. It is clinging onto something which we did not have, yet in the hope that it will happen.

Our hope is something that cannot be dead. A person without hope would eventually give up life. It is our believe that something good or bad is going to happen in the future. It might happen per our dream or maybe not.

Anyone who is among the living has hope. (Eccl. 9:4) It is an important element for waiting on the promises of God. In His great mercy, we are given birth to a living hope in the resurrection of Christ. (1 Peter 1:3)

3. Measure your life by your FAITH.

Faith is the essence of Christian life. Faith, more importantly, is putting our complete trust in God. By faith we are saved; by faith we become His children.

Faith and fear cannot go along. Measure your faith by your assurance in Jesus Christ. Faith is the assurance that when fear grips, illness strikes, misunderstood, opposed, and in every circumstances: Jesus is with you.

Measure your life by your initiative through faith, your vision, and ability to fight the good fight. Faith is trusting on God’s perfect timing. (Mark 4:40)

4. Measure your life by your COMMUNION.

We commune with God through prayers. When you commune with Him make sure you hear Him back. We cannot carry on by simply offering sacrifices. God wanted to commune with us, I repeat.

Measure your life by how often you commune with God. Your communion qualifies you to experience the presence of God in your lives.

No one’s life is greater than his prayer. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalms 37:4)

5. Measure your life by your INVESTMENTS.

Investment is a process of undertaking certain things with the expectation of a worthwhile result or to be profitable. Not only money can be invested.

Our life on earth is an investment. We will reap some of our investments already on earth. But the biggest reward is awaiting us after life. You can invest righteousness, kindness, love, good deeds, and tears for your future.

You can invest your wealth, wisdom, and time for your children because they are your future. God cannot be mocked nor bribed. A man reaps what he sows. (Galatians 6:7)

6. Measure your life by your LOVE.

Love is the most important essences of life. What you and whom do you love define your living. Love someone who loves you, and even your enemies, say the Bible.

Do you love something that deters happiness from your life? Love all the people around you. Most important is, Love God, no matter what. We can love God because he first loved us. In Him, love is completed.

Love given reflects love received. Jesus gives us a new command: Love one another as I have loved you. (John 13:34)

7. Measure your life by your amount of SURRENDER.

Surrendering is to stop resisting and submit to an authority. If the authority of your life is Jesus Christ it means surrendering to Christ. It is to give up your right for Him, to mold you.

In other words, it is to crucify our will before the Lord. Surrendering to the Lord could be dangerous, at times, but always worthwhile. The power of surrender/ crucifixion is peace and reconciliation. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. (Hebrews 12:15)

The more you surrender you will have peace with God, which will reflect in your life. In that way, our owner becomes Him. (Galatians 2:20)

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Abiding Grace: Finding Hope amidst Uncertainty

Uncertainty, undeniably, is one of the ingredients in the walk of life.  It happened for a reason, may be.

My son just came back from school.  As usual, I enquired as to what they did at school.  They played and they enjoyed, which was good.  When we sent our children to school, we want them to learn something.  If their progress can be seen, we become happier.  Anyways, it doesn’t happen that way, always.

My Son doing his homework
Children; Writing practice

Some worksheets, they brought along, to be done at home.  At times, children simply didn’t follow our instructions.  And we forget they are just starting.  As a parent, we are uncertain about their future.  Parenting was never easy – you get discouraged one minute, you get happy with full of hope the other time.

Imparting knowledge, for some of us, isn’t easy.  That’s why we sent them to school, to get help while we raised them.  We want our children to blossom into stars.  However, several rounds of ‘test of patience’ needed to overcome first.  Amidst that uncertainty, we have hope when we rested the matter in God’s Abiding Grace.

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Calculating Investments

Investments, in all its forms, had an uncertain future.  The sales person feed us good return for every policy or investment plans.  It is their job; they are trained for that purpose only.  It is us, the investors, who got stuck, if it goes awry.  We might not reap the fruit in time.

Like others, in our pursuit of happiness, we tend to invest amidst uncertainty.  We must take a risk yet it can take us into bondage.  Being unable to get rid of any investments due to unforeseen reasons is also hard to bear.  Yet, in His abiding grace, we have hope that at least we might be delivered in time.  In any type of the outcome, God’s grace is behind what led us till today.

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Empty glass

Emptiness, inside the heart, can eat up our body too.  Several times, when I wanted to commune with God, it seems God was far away today.  When our emptiness is not filled by the Holy Spirit, it is as good as a half-dead person.  When the cup is not filled, we have nothing to offer our surroundings.  In this time of uncertainty, God’s abiding grace still abided with us although we did not feel it.

We wanted to perform good things yet we ended up doing bad things.  Without His grace not a soul will live.  Waiting silently to transform us, to fill us again, will give us hope amidst this uncertainty – the dilemma or unpredictability.

When we’re let down or we felt let down beyond our normal living, it is more difficult.  In the evening, as usual, we go out to spend time in a park nearby.  My children, in their prime, were active.  They wanted to play with me.  At times, I am unable to play with them as much as they wanted.  It isn’t easy to be in that condition.

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Playing with Children

For every person, I hope, it is our dream to spent time with, play with our children till they get bored.  It was uncertain when would Daddy get fully fit to play with them into their hearts contentment.  Yet you don’t want to let them know of all your difficulties.  It is their happiness that comes first.  Time and again, it is my duty to give them hope and assured them of His abiding grace.  One thing is certain amidst all uncertainty, Jesus Christ died for us.  He set the path right for all of us.

Let me end herewith that in every sphere of uncertainty in our walk of life, God’s grace is abiding.  He did all the necessities unseen to our earthly eyes.  It’s just that we didn’t observe God’s work or might be ignoring it.

Let’s try to make uncertainty be just a phase in our journey.

How I become A Stay-at-Home Dad

“This time I came home to not leave you alone, if (at all) that’s possible”

I said to my one-year old son with tears dropping from my eyes. We hugged each other tightly.

On that fateful day, I did my Exit Interview in the Local Head Office of my former employer. I told them that I am more than happy to work with them for the years I’d been with them.  That’s how my resignation was fully processed and accepted.

This is how it unfolded:

It’s been hard starting a family away from my hometown, with both parents working.  Our hometown was some 1500 odd miles away.  We could only arranged a helper for few months after the birth our first baby.

We waited, our first child, for five years after our marriage.  Unable to arrange alternate ways, we discussed for long.  It was then that we find someone had to sacrifice our current job and take care of our family.

We looked at our first-born child for long and decided I will take care of him, as best as I could.  Taking into account our financial matters, the dice falls on me.

With great enthusiasm, I decided to turn my investments on our child.  All my time, my strength, and the wisdom gained so far.

Keeping on-hold, or to never have, the chance to satisfy my ambitious career, I sacrificed my prestigious banking job in the largest Public Sector Undertakings Bank in India, abruptly.   I could recalled those times, where I had been selected as “Best Employee of the Month” during my time there.

Friends and dear ones warned, “You’d lose social respect or status.”  That seems true.  But this is the reality of life.

Now that’s how I become a fulltime Stay-at-Home Dad some years down the line.

Tips from my parents and those books I’ve read, before and after getting married, helped me alot.  It is a great time to passed on values of life, stay guarded in outh faith.

That’s the career I chose for now, and as long as it takes.  Till date, I regret not!